Deciding to divorce can be a tough decision, and some people mull it over for years. While you can pat yourself on the back for making a choice, you also need to prepare for plenty more tough decisions to come.
You’ll need to decide what assets you would like, what share of parenting time you want and how far you are prepared to push to get these. If you and your spouse can reach an agreement over the major decisions, a court can probably just sign them off. If you cannot agree, you may need to hand over the decision-making power to a court.
It’s hard to make good decisions when you are exhausted or stressed
Think about any time you made a poor decision at work. There’s a good chance you were not feeling at your best when you made it. Perhaps you hadn’t had enough sleep. Maybe you were under too much pressure or had too many tasks on the go at once, and the stress clouded your judgment.
As important as work decisions might seem, they’re unlikely to be as crucial as those you make during a divorce, which can literally be life-changing for you and any children you have.
You need to look after yourself to ensure you are best placed to make those decisions. Ways to do this include:
- Asking your boss or colleagues to relieve you of some of your workload
- Asking friends and family to help out with the kids
- Gathering with close friends for a chance to air some of the thoughts in your head
Having someone who knows how divorce works and can explain your options and act on your behalf is also wise.